Well, it looks like more racy photos of Miley Cyrus have shown up on the web. Supposedly stolen from her cell phone, they show a then 14 year old Miley in the shower in a wet T-shirt and another with her shirt rolled up and tucked under her bra, exposing her mid-section, and blowing a kiss while taking a picture of herself. As the parent of a 14 year old daughter, I pay some attention to these things and often find myself shaking my head. My daughter used to be a big Hannah Montana fan (of course, she will no longer admit to that!) so I find it sad to see this young lady, whom my daughter really liked, start to spiral out of control.
I know many parents will say “It’s just some innocent photos. She isn’t NAKED or anything. Besides, they were taken with her own phone and were not intended for public consumption”. I suppose all that is true, but I often wonder where her parents are while all this is taking place. In recent months, photos surfaced of Miley sprawled across the lap of a teenage boy in what appeared to be a bed and what I would call a very provocative position. I am sorry, but we don’t even allow boys in our HOUSE, let alone in a bed with our daughter. I would think, with a child making the kind of money Miley makes, her parents would be even MORE protective! Certainly the thought of other kids using their daughter for her fame and fortune has crossed their minds. I just feel these activities are all taking place in a home that is unsupervised.
We allow our daughter to go to the pool with her friends, be involved in youth group at church and to have girls spend the night so we aren’t totally overprotective. But I do go through my daughters phone when she has it charging. I make sure there isn’t inappropriate texting or photos on there. We do not allow her to go to chat rooms or to have a MySpace page and the computer stays in the office where we can all walk in at anytime. If I feel she is listening to inappropriate music (”Sexy Can I” was the latest), I learn the lyrics and sing it with her until she is so mortified she can’t bear to listen to it anymore. There is something inherently wrong with hearing your MOM sing about “take it to the front, take it to the back” and working a stripper pole that takes all the fun out of those types of songs. I am not naive enough to think she has totally knocked it off but I can tell you this, I haven’t heard that song played in my home since.
Parenting is hard work. You aren’t put on this earth to be your daughter or son’s friend. It is something you have to work at everyday. You have to have the backbone to say NO and not back down or give in. You have to set clear boundaries and stick with them. You need to be consistent. It seems to me all this is lacking in the Cyrus household.
–Lisa
July 15, 2008 at 1:41 am
Yeah to a great parent! I applaud you for the direction you are taking with your daughter. Our daughters, if left unsupervised, are glorifying a complete fantasy. I am constantly setting my daughters straight with the likes of Hannah/Miley. What are her parents thinking, teaching her to be two people?? Good for you being a grounded, concerned parent!!
July 15, 2008 at 3:18 am
Thanks for the props Angellviews! We certainly aren’t perfect but we do try and really put in a lot of effort where our kids are concerned. I think the best part is my husband and I are really a “united front” when it comes to the kids. We laugh at night saying “it’s US against THEM” lol! But I think that is a big problem with many families, both parents just aren’t on the same page when it comes to setting boundries and discipline. We have always had the philosophy that our marriage came first and by doing that, we could be much better parents. By keeping OUR bond strong, we can help our children by having a healthy relationship and environment to grow up in. Believe me, I know how blessed I am
–Lisa
July 15, 2008 at 12:36 pm
The tweens age is just complicated and it’s important parents set the rules and boundaries.
July 15, 2008 at 2:44 pm
Miley Cyrus In Trouble Again
http://www.judiciaryreport.com/miley_cyrus_in_trouble_again.htm
July 16, 2008 at 12:54 am
This girl has EVERYTHING but a clue on HOW MUCH she has!!She’s throwing it all away.Pretty soon parents aren’t going to let their kids watch or listen to Miley because of her improper pictures.Man,if i ever did this my parents would probably beat me with a baseball bat (an aluminum one)and it wouldn’t be pretty because they both were baseball/softball players.
July 16, 2008 at 12:57 am
although i wouldn’t mind being shaped like her.She’s nice and thin!!
July 25, 2008 at 9:18 pm
Personally, if you were my mom I would want to go bury myself. My parents respect my privacy and they trust me knowing that I will keep my self out of trouble and inappropriate things. That makes me feel like I earned their trust and that way I stay clean. What do you mean you aren’t being overprotective? Those things you let her go to are really good but it’s not like your giving her chances or anything. I feel sorry for your daughter. She is not going to be a normal teen when she goes out into the world. Other people will be talking about music she has no idea about. She will not be able to communicate with the thousands of GOOD people that use myspace. If you baby her right now how will she know how to protect herself from the harmful people on myspace when she does grow up and she is out of your control. It is good that you are not letting her go into chat rooms. But not allowing boys into the house is a different thing. All the people I know allow kids of the opposite gender in the home as long as they are nice kids and don’t do anything bad. The instant they do something bad they are kicked out. What will your daughter do the first time she meets a boy? How would you like it if you were not allowed to talk to men, have a website, and had someone standing over you singing all the songs you listened to with you if they were bad. It’s just simply being very overprotective as far as I can see.
July 26, 2008 at 4:06 am
Well Jimmy, you are right, it’s probably best I am not your mom. I appreciate your young, unguided opinion but the fact is, my daughter is BARELY 14. I spend plenty of time around mom’s with children my daughter’s age and I have NEVER heard anything good about MySpace. All I hear these parents say is how they find foul language, sexual referances and bullying on their kid’s MySpace page. Sorry, no thanks. Kid’s have it rough enough these days, I won’t allow it to be any worse than it has to be.
And if there is a group of kid’s talking about songs with lyrics that include:
“Sexy can I, visit you at work
When you sliding down the pole,
no panties, no shirt.
Then you climb back up the pole,
then you drop and do the splits.
How you make that pussy talk,
Baby damn, u is da shit”
then you know what, those are NOT the kind of kid’s I want my daughter hanging out with. We both listen to lots of popular music, and no I don’t mean Disney, and there are lots of songs we both enjoy but as a parent, I draw the line at vulgarity.
And believe me, my child is not locked up in a convent. She has gone on all her class trips, joined her previous boyfriend at his churches youth group, gone on our churches youth group trips and lock in’s,goes to the pool with her friends and to school dances. She is hardly denied anything. And by the way, she has met plenty of boys.
But I won’t appologize for not allowing my daughter to “date” at 14. I won’t appologize for not allowing “boyfriends” in the home and I won’t wait until someone screws up before I take action. You see, I am a PROACTIVE parent. My husband and I believe in heading these issues off at the pass BEFORE they become problems. I am not going to wait until I find drugs or porngraphic photos or a teen pregnancy to take action….that’s closing the barn door after the horses have run off.
Jimmy, I appreciate your opinion, I really do and I am happy to hear you are a good, smart “stay out of trouble” kind of kid. Apparently what your parent’s are doing with you works for YOU. There are lots of different parenting techniques, many of them are very good….some are not. We have found what we do is working for our kid’s. They feel loved and protected and when we explain when we feel something is inappropriate, there are no temper tantrums and slamming doors….they just understand that mom and dad love them very much and just want what is best for them.